Almost one week ago the daughter of a mother in Freeman's Nursing Home in Kingsford, Michigan sent me these text messages upon learning ALL the residents of this nursing home had Covid. She told me that they informed no one and only posted a note on the door to inform employees and families..
I don't know why she picked me to tell her story, but I read every post each day she sent them. Feeling the pain and torment she was going through, almost as if we stood there behind her. I don't believe in masks, I don't truly think they help any bit in this pandemic. I might wear one to make others happy, but I still don't think they work and nothing is going to change my mind, not even death. Since March families have been kept from nursing homes in Michigan out of caution, as not to spread Covid or pass it on to a loved one and yet here we are.. Those rules did nothing to protect loved ones and continue to punish the families of those prisoners within..
Saturday, November 28, 2020 - 9:26am
Hi..this is the daughter of a Freeman's resident. Just to clarify, I am in no way pointing fingers or accusing anyone of anything.. I admire these essential hero's.. I knew covid was in the building, I received calls on a regular basis. But I'm sure with all hell breaking loose there, it got over looked to let me know my mother was positive. I just want to put a face to this. Right here in upper Michigan. Not just on TV anymore.. REALLY, people this virus is killing off generations, and if we don't stop or slow down ,what generation is next.. so let's all hope and pray that this last Thanksgiving get together, won't be our last.. KEEP YOUR ASS AT HOME..
AND PUT A MASK ON.. and if you don't believe or have your rights, go look into my mother's eyes. And hope you won't have to look into your mother's eyes. God Bless all people who open the doors, and walk towards the unknown. Now that my friends, is bravery.. and courage at its finest.
AND PUT A MASK ON.. and if you don't believe or have your rights, go look into my mother's eyes. And hope you won't have to look into your mother's eyes. God Bless all people who open the doors, and walk towards the unknown. Now that my friends, is bravery.. and courage at its finest.Saturday, November 28, 2020 - 10:39am
Hi jason, hope you don't mind being my voice.. I am not on Facebook or other messaging..Hell, I can barely text.. so I'm hoping you receive this and please share.. my coworker shared part of the conversations yesterday.. wow..
Sunday, November 29, 2020 - 1:08pm
I'm outside my mother's window this Sunday morning.. let me try to tell this.. last Tuesday after work, I went to see mom through the window. She was weak ..tired..Wednesday night after work.. even weaker.. couldn't even bring food to her mouth by herself.. that is when I found out she was positive.. Thanksgiving day I sat outside watching my mom slowly get worse.. suffered fevers and chills.. and now needs oxygen.. Friday I worked and came to her window.. just sleep mom.. Saturday night.. I ordered hospice.. so I packed a bag this morning, and she's awake.. she knows I'm here.. those angels inside .. wow, you should see them.. dressed in PPE's.. with love and kindness in there eyes.. there is nothing more beautiful than a smile that is struggling through tears.. God Bless them.. so mom can barely swallow.. her underlining disease is tremors and diabetes and a few others. but its the tremors that is affecting swallowing.. weak muscle control.. but she does manage to get some nourishment down.. a little applesauce and chocolate ensure.. and now rest mom.. the doctor says her vital signs are still pretty good.. so lets just slow down..
I'm sharing this to put a face on this virus.. maybe like, slapping people in the face with reality.. my mother was a writer.. and darn good.. her stories have won awards and been published. She is amazing, my mom.. so I'm trying my best to write this for others.. to wake up.. STAY YOUR ASS HOME 
... she is not struggling now, just resting.. her eyes are open, tired, and sometimes absent.. I tap on the window.. smile and tell her I love her.. her breaths are shallow and she looks ,well terrible, but peaceful.. I could only hope.. that you.. can see it's time to slow down,wear a mask.. and try to save more mother's and loved ones.. its lunch time.. mom said yes to getting up into her recliner.. the two CNA's (angels) got her in her chair, covered up, and a few bites of apple sauce.. the girls go around to feed the residents.. a few bites at a time..don't want anyone to aspirate...
... she is not struggling now, just resting.. her eyes are open, tired, and sometimes absent.. I tap on the window.. smile and tell her I love her.. her breaths are shallow and she looks ,well terrible, but peaceful.. I could only hope.. that you.. can see it's time to slow down,wear a mask.. and try to save more mother's and loved ones.. its lunch time.. mom said yes to getting up into her recliner.. the two CNA's (angels) got her in her chair, covered up, and a few bites of apple sauce.. the girls go around to feed the residents.. a few bites at a time..don't want anyone to aspirate...Monday, November 30, 2020 - 8:24am
Mom's back in bed.. resting.. clarification.. I asked about hospice.. not yet, the doctor said to slow down and breath.. she's made it 5 days.. 5 tuff days.. but to see my mom.. my god.. I guess she's worse at night.. let's see how tonight goes.. so when I came back this afternoon.. someone smashed up some pumpkins out mom's window..
I've been giving the deer and birds some snacks here to come a visit the residents.. so thank you..
mom is really not resting well.. she tosses her legs some.. a little coughing.. then back to shallow breathing.. tossing more.. looks my way.. I hope she sees me smile.. she just stares struggling with coughing.. so weak so frail...... some wonderful lady just stopped by to ask me if I would like anything.. wow.. compassion.... I don't, and I'm not telling this for my sake.. these residents are lonely.. for over 8 months... asking to come out.. she's my mom.. and I don't want her to be lonely.. locked up.. just wanting to come outside.. for OVER 8 months.. shame on us all.. let's stop moving around.. please.. before.. well.. I just want it to go away.. lots of emotions..... its hard to leave.. the wind is strong tonight.. and some snow.. so , rest well mom.. I'll come again in the morning..
I've been giving the deer and birds some snacks here to come a visit the residents.. so thank you.. mom is really not resting well.. she tosses her legs some.. a little coughing.. then back to shallow breathing.. tossing more.. looks my way.. I hope she sees me smile.. she just stares struggling with coughing.. so weak so frail...... some wonderful lady just stopped by to ask me if I would like anything.. wow.. compassion.... I don't, and I'm not telling this for my sake.. these residents are lonely.. for over 8 months... asking to come out.. she's my mom.. and I don't want her to be lonely.. locked up.. just wanting to come outside.. for OVER 8 months.. shame on us all.. let's stop moving around.. please.. before.. well.. I just want it to go away.. lots of emotions..... its hard to leave.. the wind is strong tonight.. and some snow.. so , rest well mom.. I'll come again in the morning..Monday, November 30, 2020 - 5:48pm
Monday morning.. I asked again for comfort care.. she is now awake.. staring up.. I tap on window.. she won't look.. the nurse holds her hand and tells her I'm outside and my mom didn't respond to me.. I tell her I love her.. and sit.. looking in.. they say she refuses all... they faxed my request a little after 10 am..around 1130.. I call doctors office and plead and ask to be merciful.. the girl told me she would show doctor asap.. at around noon the dr. Office phoned me and said she faxed back the order.. and the nurse gave me the thumbs up, we got the fax back.. it will be a bit.. I came home to wait for call.. 330 I call home.. now.. they are waiting for physical prescription.. 530 I'm still waiting to find out if there will be a scrip tonight.. my mother is unresponsive and looks like the skeleton.. god.. please.. I feel abandoned.. there is nothing be done.. but those ANGELS.. they hold her hand and they smile and try to be positive.... and I wait..
Tuesday, December 1, 2020 - 8:29am
645 PM.. monday... my mother wasn't afraid to stand up for what is right.. so to tell my mom's finally story... I will.. 700 at mom's window.. she's awake.. starring.. I took photos.. to show why I asked for comfort care.. I would do anything for my mom... and this too.. I called in.. the medication has been ordered.. should be another hour.. its just to comfort.. not.. just to take her from reality.. finally
a little peace.. please god..
a little peace.. please god..Wednesday, December 2, 2020 - 10:54am
Tuesday is tuff.. I believe that there is pain and suffering with starvation I asked for every 3 hours for my mother's compassion, I would like her to not be aware..noises startle her.. 445 the social worker called.. I made her aware of my medical power of attorney.. my mom should rest better tomorrow.. its been 4 days without.. and very little calories since last Wednesday.. 7 days from tomorrow. I am my mother's advocate..
I asked for every 3 hours for my mother's compassion, I would like her to not be aware..noises startle her.. 445 the social worker called.. I made her aware of my medical power of attorney.. my mom should rest better tomorrow.. its been 4 days without.. and very little calories since last Wednesday.. 7 days from tomorrow. I am my mother's advocate.. 425 mom passed ... 1030 now.. I've called and texted the ones who should know.. right now.. so.. here's the best I can do. To tell this. I got a call a little before 3 am.. she is going now.. I got up.. cried a little.. got dress, and to my mom's side.. her light was on.. I looked in to see the love and sorrow in the eyes of of Angel holding my mom's hand.. she left us for a bit.. I told my mom I love her.. and let her know I'll stay so don't be afraid..Tammy.. I'll always remember you.. I'm sure you were there for so many.. just like all the brave healthcare workers out there.... I promise to tell my mom's story.. You will all see.. how wonderful my mom was.. with " Her Goodbye "
Thursday, December 3, 2020
Thursday.. APPLAUSE.. to Lisa.. the letter to the editor..
my mother's stories were of the life we lived.. the stories are fun.. but real.. she told other people's stories too.. a great grand ,I knew when I was young.. was a lumberjack... so my mom told stories and I told her last... But. the story of essentials... and I mean all, from every single nursing home ,actually around the world..THANK GOD for them.. being there for my mom.. and I hope for all you non believers and others who have rights... I hope .that there is still enough brave, courageous people , out there in case you need them... the healthcare workers are TIRED and also catching this , some live ,and some die..some suffer and some don't. And they are fighting for their lives.. and the best part, they are fighting for our lives.. us.. humanity.. so.. LETS ALL give them a break.. stay home if you can.. let the essential workers to this.. go out for only what you need.. leave your children home.. with your loved ones.. protect them NOW... 2020, this year is only going to get worse... we all should see this, and we all know what to do.. KEEP YOUR ASS HOME AND PUT A MASK ON.. ..The daughter..
my mother's stories were of the life we lived.. the stories are fun.. but real.. she told other people's stories too.. a great grand ,I knew when I was young.. was a lumberjack... so my mom told stories and I told her last... But. the story of essentials... and I mean all, from every single nursing home ,actually around the world..THANK GOD for them.. being there for my mom.. and I hope for all you non believers and others who have rights... I hope .that there is still enough brave, courageous people , out there in case you need them... the healthcare workers are TIRED and also catching this , some live ,and some die..some suffer and some don't. And they are fighting for their lives.. and the best part, they are fighting for our lives.. us.. humanity.. so.. LETS ALL give them a break.. stay home if you can.. let the essential workers to this.. go out for only what you need.. leave your children home.. with your loved ones.. protect them NOW... 2020, this year is only going to get worse... we all should see this, and we all know what to do.. KEEP YOUR ASS HOME AND PUT A MASK ON.. ..The daughter..